I have so many emotions going through me right now I am really at a loss for words. I can say that the main ones are excitement and happiness. We got a letter in the mail this morning from our IVF clinic. Jasmine was an IVF baby and so was Jacob the baby we lost. He died at 18wks from a neural tube defect called anencephaly. We conceived Kyan a few months after naturally, and so had 13 embryo’s left over. We knew we weren’t going to have any more children so after much thought and contemplation and soul searching we decided to donate the embryo’s to someone who needs them to have children. After all we went through to have kids we wanted to help another couple conceive.
Well as I said we got a letter in the mail from our IVF clinic, where we donated the embryos. The couple that were given the embryo’s successfully conceived and have given birth to a baby boy in July. The first thing that came to mind was that Jasmine and Kyan have a baby brother!
The sad part is that we may never meet him, it will depend entirely on the couple and on what they choose to do. I am guessing they asked the clinic to let us know they had a baby with our embryo’s as if the couple do not want us to know anything, we will not get to find out. We may also have a knock on the door when the child is 18. Something I am really excited about the idea of. But that may also never happen.
Anyway, I really needed to share, I am not sure when or how we will tell our kids. We WILL tell them, just not sure when, because both of them still miss Jacob and they never met him. It might be excruciating for them to know they have a brother out there but may never get to meet him. We may wait till they are a bit older and better able to handle the news. We are probably going to get some counselling to help us decide how best to handle it. The clinic offer that free to people who donate.